Both boys slept a tiny bit late this morning, then we had playgroup, a trip to Kohl's, and a calm afternoon filled with lots of independent play by Tanner. He is very into pretending right now, and spent close to an hour taking different stuffed animals up to his room, attempting to diaper them, read to them, and then make them take a "nap." It was all very entertaining to spy on!
Landon spent most of the afternoon just crawling around the playroom with Tanner. He was so content to just watch his big brother in action while gnawing on everything in sight. I can't believe how fast he is starting to move. He is still Army crawling, but definitely getting everywhere he wants to go. Pretty soon I think he'll start pulling himself into a sitting position. No teeth yet. Solids are going okay. Still not sleeping through the night :( We had his 6 mos. checkup last week and he weighed 20 lbs (80th %tile) and measured 29 in (off the charts). I asked the doctor if he should be sleeping all night yet, but he said not to worry about it. (Hmpff! Easy for him to say!)
I have been really struggling lately to accomplish anything. To-do lists (which I used to LOVE) totally stress me out and make me a mean mom. So, I'm trying to just do what I can when I can. Lately our naps are all over the place, so someone is always awake. The house is a mess EVERY NIGHT when Jon gets home. I often feel like I'm floundering and barely keeping my head above water. I just can't seem to get it together even though I spend ALL DAY taking care of my house and my boys. Maybe this is what life with multiple kids feels like. Or maybe this is just a bump in the road and my kiddos are extra needy right now. Time will tell. Even after 6 mos, I'm STILL adjusting to life with 2. I find that my attitude makes a HUGE difference in how my day goes ... not that I am more productive when I have a good attitude, I just approach the day in a different way and it is more enjoyable for everyone. I'm sure a good night's sleep wouldn't hurt anything either. :)
Speaking of, I better get my kitchen cleaned so I can get to bed. Goodnight!
4 comments:
Oh Rachel! Although I don't have two, I totally feel ya on the never having a clean house thing. I'm always picking up something or vacuuming something just to turn around and pick it up again. How do we ever get ahead? I do not know! Maybe we're not supposed to anymore. I think you're right to just do whatever you can whenever you can. Flexibility is the name of the game and that is totally not my nature.
I HOPE Landon soon sleeps through the night for you, b/c nothing makes me crankier than missing my sleep. I think it will make a huge difference for you. Just know that him not sleeping is definitley a phase and it will get better eventually. It will!!!
You're an awesome awesome Mom and you're doing a great job!!! Those boys are so loved and that's the most important thing.
I agree with everything Carolina Girl said! I firmly believe that this season of my life does not require a spotless house. There will be a day (hopefully) when I can keep up with housework, but this day isn't it. So, I don't stress (unless company is coming over and then I go into spaz mode, ha!). As soon as I finish a load of laundry for the kids, Kennedy has spilled something on her shirt and changed her outfit, Leyton has spit up on the fifth onesie of the day, etc. Same thing happens with dishes, toys, etc. As long as your house doesn't look like the ones on Hoarders (and I know you, so it never will) you are doing well. Your kids aren't going to grow up and say "I wish my mom would have cleaned the toilet everyday." Instead, they will have stories and memories of how you played with them, read to them, took them places, let them make a mess, etc.
As for the sleeping thing, when Kennedy was 6 months old she still wasn't sleeping through the night. In fact, she was up several times to nurse. I just kept doing it thinking it was what was supposed to happen (although I was exhausted). When we took her for her doc appt he immediately told me that she should be sleeping longer, her body doesn't need to eat that often anymore. He gave me permission to let her cry it out. And I did. I knew she wasn't starving to death, it was just out of habit she got up. After 4 days, she was sleeping through the night and has been since. That is just my experience and 2 cents worth.
I am done writing a book on your comment section now! Know that you are an incredible mommy and those boys are so lucky and blessed to have you in their lives. Now, go take a nap or rest.
Hey girl, I would be surprised if you said you had everything figured out at this point. After adding #3, it literally took me a year to say that things in our home were stable. lol. I bet that makes you want have another, huh?! :)
You will continue to find your way. You will learn to cut corners so that things can stay moderately clean. Your boys will be more resilient because their mama is no nonsense! You may also find (like I have) that the only time the house is clean is at midnight and sometimes that's all it takes to have a wonderful night's rest. Some nights, though, you'll throw in the towel and admit that it's totally not worth it... and it won't be.
All my boys have done a 4am feeding through 9mos. when I read from Dr. Weissbluth that NO baby needs to wake... ever. Alas, every 9mos birthday in our house means early morning crying and praying... and eventually silence and sleep. It takes 2 days tops. Hang in there!!
Your boys are SO beyond lucky. You are a wonderful mom. xoxo
2 is hard. I almost called you the day you wrote this post because of a mother of two melt down I had. And work is super stressful and mommy guilt is such a terrible thing but ever present. Hang in there - it gets better. Lisa
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